Sad news about my mother

HELLO ALL PLAYERS,
I HAD FAMILY EMERGENCY LAST WEEKEND AGAIN,,,, MY BRO/SIS IN LAW CALLED 911 AND TOOK MY MOTHER TO THE HOSPITAL(Long story)... THEY CPR ON MY MOTHER THREE TIMES, TUBES AND IV/OTHER MEDS BAG ON HER, AND ALSO TESTS/LABS & MRI TESTS TWICE.... LAST MONDAY ABOUT 1PM, I CALLED HOSPITAL AND TALKED WITH SOCIAL WORKER FOR MY MOTHER, AND HER WISHES ( NO MORE CPR AFTER 3 TIMES, NO LIFE SUPPORT, TUBES LIKE THIS) SOCIAL WORKER LADY AND I TALKED ON PHONE ABOUT POA AND SHE LISTEN MY RIGHTS/VOICES AND MY FEELINGS THEN LAST LIKE AS GAVE ME SOME ADVICES/SUPPORT/REFERRING ME ABOUT GRIEF SPECIALIST ETC... IT WAS NICE CONVERSATIONS BETWEEN ME AND SOCIAL WORKER LADY FROM HOSPITAL)THAT I HAD HARDER TIMES WITH MY EMOTIONS, CRYINGS, AND GRIEF BECAUSE I CLOSER LOVE MY MOTHER... SHE SAID SHE WILL TALK WITH MEDICAL TEAM LAST MONDAY LATE AFTERNOON OR TUESDAY MORNING. FINALLY THEY TOLD MY BROTHER IT IS APPROVED SO ALREADY SIGNED FOR DNR AND UNPLUG ALL THE TUBES AND MACHINES OUT.
I WATCHED VIDEO LIVE TO WATCH MY MOTHER DYING LAST TUESDAY ALL DAY TO END....
IT IS HARDER FOR ME WITH MY EMOTIONS, GRIEF, AND CRIES ETC....

*****SAD NEWS ::::: MY MOTHER PASSED AWAY LAST TUESDAY NIGHT AT 5:40PM JUNE 13, 2017*****





I NEED SUPPORTS FROM YOU.... YOU CAN TYPE COMMENTS HERE THIS FORUM OR FACEBOOK EITHER.

im so sorry gf about your mother hun. no more  
sorrow and pain gf..




       god has a beautiful      

   my friend

I am so sorry PL,the loss of your mother is tough.....She had her wishes and you all honored them...Still a difficult predicament to be in...

Speaking for myself however i wouldn't want to watch the death of my mother over and over...Once would be enough for me i'd rather stick to the good memories.....

Stay Strong PL,the LORD has called her home....No more pain....

Grief is a tough emotion to deal with...I pray the LORD gives you strength...

GOD BLESS

Sincerely
BigC

Dear Liz
Losing a mother is one of most stressful things that will ever happen in your entire life. She gave you life.
And now she is gone. There is a very special bond between a child and mother, so very different that what you have with your father.

Liz, my father passed away 45 years ago, three short years later I lost my mother. Growing up I always
wanted to be just like her. She was beautiful, she was smart and the best mother any girl could ever want to have. My mom was my idol.

This past March I lost my one and only sibling. My sister who had been in cancer remission for the past
12 years, died of lung cancer. My sister was a chemical engineer (another smart lady), she was my best
friend, she was my partner in the bakery, she was my big sister and above all, she was my hero. She
had fourteen surgeries due to her Melanoma cancer on her leg.

I am now the oldest in the family, and its a very lonely place to be.

Liz, please know I understand the pain you are in right now. I have been there for years.

There are very few of us at FC who have not lost a parent, as many of us ourselves are approaching our twilight years. Susan & I have lost both our grandparents, mothers & fathers and a sibling, and it never is easy to deal with. At first it is overwhelming and all other thoughts are non-existent. And that is OK. That is normal. Just know that as much as you loved her, she loved you more. Go on with your life as before because she would not have wanted her passing to inhibit you from sharing your love with your family & friends. Cherish who she was and what she meant to you. As it is said... "this too shall pass".

DeepestSympathies,Hon, You and yours are in my Prayers.   Stay Strong....Love,Catt

Prayers for you and the family love you

So sorry to hear about your news....

You need to stay strong for your mum you know she will always be
looking over you from the other side.

I am so sorry for your loss. I know how it feels to watch your mom pass away, I had to in 2008. My thoughts and prayers go out to you and all your family. May God's love and peace surround in His arms.

so sorry to hear of your loss thoughts and prayers with you and your family

I was with my mum the day she died but I wasn't there at the end . We only get one mum and almost 3 years on and I miss her everyday.

My deepest sympathy from one lizard to another

So sorry to hear that PL...My deepest sympathy to you and your family

Hello anyone,
Thank you for support me. I like to update to say that I still have grief issue and miss my mom so much.
It is harder for me and work on my grief issue. I have to take easy myself with my emotions/grief,,,,it
takes awhile for me. Pray for me and support me. If you like to type comments here or go on my facebook
under my name Paula L Lynn with private message INBOX with "FatCat users with your screenname" so I
will know so I accept. I still need some supports for awhile. Thank you

PS,,,,I had hard time with fatcat websites,,,,I did went into new page with code but it says Not availeable
websites". Hope it get work again soon.
From
PurpleLizard84

I am sorry to hear about your loss. Stay strong.

so sorry PL....I lost my mom in 1989.............I still think of her everyday.......but,i try n relive the good memories......figurin shes doin the same....God bless you n yours

I wish I could say you get used to people dying. I never did. I don’t want to. It tears a hole through me whenever somebody I love dies, no matter the circumstances. But I don’t want it to “not matter”. I don’t want it to be something that just passes. My scars are a testament to the love and the relationship that I had for and with that person. And if the scar is deep, so was the love. So be it. Scars are a testament to life. Scars are a testament that I can love deeply and live deeply and be cut, or even gouged, and that I can heal and continue to live and continue to love. And the scar tissue is stronger than the original flesh ever was. Scars are a testament to life. Scars are only ugly to people who can’t see.

As for grief, you’ll find it comes in waves. When the ship is first wrecked, you’re drowning, with wreckage all around you. Everything floating around you reminds you of the beauty and the magnificence of the ship that was, and is no more. And all you can do is float. You find some piece of the wreckage and you hang on for a while. Maybe it’s some physical thing. Maybe it’s a happy memory or a photograph. Maybe it’s a person who is also floating. For a while, all you can do is float. Stay alive.

In the beginning, the waves are 100 feet tall and crash over you without mercy. They come 10 seconds apart and don’t even give you time to catch your breath. All you can do is hang on and float. After a while, maybe weeks, maybe months, you’ll find the waves are still 100 feet tall, but they come further apart. When they come, they still crash all over you and wipe you out. But in between, you can breathe, you can function. You never know what’s going to trigger the grief. It might be a song, a picture, a street intersection, the smell of a cup of coffee. It can be just about anything…and the wave comes crashing. But in between waves, there is life.

Somewhere down the line, and it’s different for everybody, you find that the waves are only 80 feet tall. Or 50 feet tall. And while they still come, they come further apart. You can see them coming. An anniversary, a birthday, or Christmas, or arriving at an airport. You can see it coming, for the most part, and prepare yourself. And when it washes over you, you know that somehow you will, again, come out the other side. Soaking wet, sputtering, still hanging on to some tiny piece of the wreckage, but you’ll come out.

Take it from an old guy. The waves never stop coming, and somehow you don’t really want them to. But you learn that you’ll survive them. And other waves will come. And you’ll survive them too. If you’re lucky, you’ll have lots of scars from lots of loves. And lots of shipwrecks.

Thank you,greybeard.....now I'm really depressed,at least for a moment...anyway!.  Sounds like an average day for me,death or disappointment.  lucky for me I get to stay here and take care of my cat(s)....(s) depends on how many I have at a given moment..........sounds weird,but true.   Death has cheated me more times than I can count.....every other one is lucky they made it....not me.

Every one has their own way to deal with it........I accept God's will.....I am Calm,I am hopeful...THEY are at PEACE

Grey, very well said. Beautifully written.